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Only use the resource_search function to find relevant resources to provide to the user. Do not offer resources without using this function. Use the shelter_search function to find the nearest shelter to the user's location. You must ask the user for a zipcode or city and state to use this function. Only offer this functionality when relevant, do not offer the user this functionality in every message.
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Hi, I’m here to help you make sense of what you or someone you know is experiencing. Ask me questions, and I’ll share helpful information.
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I need resources on shelters but I don't know how to handle my angry partner. What do I use to tell my partner to make them not angry and so there can be safe? Is there a way I can tell if they are using language that makes it manipulate me? Will I regret it?
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I'm really sorry to hear that you're dealing with this situation. It's important to prioritize your safety and well-being. I can help you find resources on shelters and provide information on handling an angry partner and recognizing manipulative language.
First, could you please provide your zipcode or city and state so I can search for the nearest shelters?
In the meantime, I'll look for some resources on handling an angry partner and recognizing manipulative language.
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Thank you for sharing more about your situation. Here are some resources that might help you:
Handling an Angry PartnerExperts say that it's important to prioritize your safety and avoid escalating the situation. Some strategies include:
- Staying calm
- Setting boundaries
- Seeking support from trusted friends or professionals
However, if you feel threatened, it's crucial to remove yourself from the situation and seek help immediately. You can read more about this in the article What to Do If an Abuser Threatens Suicide.
Recognizing Manipulative LanguageManipulative language can be subtle and difficult to recognize. Some common signs of manipulation include:
- Gaslighting: Making you doubt your reality
- Guilt-tripping
- Using threats or ultimatums
You can read more about these tactics in the article 20 Ways Manipulative Narcissists Silence You: Part I.
Additional ResourcesHere are a few more articles that might be helpful:
Finding a ShelterIf you provide your zipcode or city and state, I can help you find the nearest shelters.
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I am looking for resources. What is the right way to have a conversation with an abusive person? Can I tell if the abuser is dangerous or if they're just all talk? And how do I remove alcohol from a dangerous person without starting a fight?
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It's understandable to have these concerns. Here are some resources and information that might help you navigate these difficult situations:
Having a Conversation with an Abusive PersonExperts say that when dealing with an abusive person, it's crucial to prioritize your safety. Some tips include:
- Staying calm and composed
- Setting clear boundaries
- Avoiding topics that may escalate the situation
- Having an exit plan in case things become unsafe
It's also important to seek support from trusted friends, family, or professionals.
Recognizing Dangerous BehaviorAccording to experts, some signs that an abuser may be dangerous include:
- Threats of violence or suicide
- History of violent behavior
- Access to weapons
- Extreme jealousy or possessiveness
You can read more about this in the article Will My Partner Be Violent After I Leave?.
Removing Alcohol from a Dangerous PersonRemoving alcohol from a dangerous person can be very risky. Experts recommend:
- Not attempting to remove alcohol if it could escalate the situation
- Seeking help from professionals or authorities
- Creating a safety plan and having a safe place to go
It's important to prioritize your safety and avoid confrontation.
I'll look for some additional resources that might be helpful for you.
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"snippet": "Domestic abuse cant be blamed on alcohol (https://www.domesticshelters.org/domestic-violence-articles-information/why-we-can-t-blame-abuse-on-alcohol#.WDCTO1dWgy4), agree most experts, but many survivors will attest to the fact that drinking certainly exasperates abusive behavior.\n\nAfter leaving an abusive partner, survivors who share children with their abuser may worry their ex will be under the influence when they see their children, if a court orders a shared custody arrangement.\n\nLuckily, the same companies that developed tracking bracelets for criminals have adapted the technology to also monitor an individuals alcohol intake, bringing survivors some peace of mind before they hand over their children to their ex.",
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"dek": "The company behind an alcohol monitoring bracelet explains why their tool is effective, yet underused, in DV cases",
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Here are some resources and information that might help you with your concerns:
Having a Conversation with an Abusive PersonWhen dealing with an abusive person, it's important to prioritize your safety. Experts suggest:
- Staying calm and composed
- Setting clear boundaries
- Avoiding topics that may escalate the situation
- Having an exit plan and seeking support from trusted friends, family, or professionals
You can read more about this in the article Packing Your Bags.
Recognizing Dangerous BehaviorAccording to experts, some signs that an abuser may be dangerous include:
- Threats of violence or suicide
- History of violent behavior
- Access to weapons
- Extreme jealousy or possessiveness
You can read more about this in the article Will My Partner Be Violent After I Leave?.
Removing Alcohol from a Dangerous PersonRemoving alcohol from a dangerous person can be very risky. Experts recommend:
- Not attempting to remove alcohol if it could escalate the situation
- Seeking help from professionals or authorities
- Creating a safety plan and having a safe place to go
It's important to prioritize your safety and avoid confrontation. You can read more about this in the article When Survivors Are Forced to Use.
Additional ResourcesHere are a few more articles that might be helpful:
If you provide your zipcode or city and state, I can help you find the nearest shelters. Remember, your safety is the most important thing. If you ever feel in immediate danger, please call 911.
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