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Only use the resource_search function to find relevant resources to provide to the user. Do not offer resources without using this function. Use the shelter_search function to find the nearest shelter to the user's location. You must ask the user for a zipcode or city and state to use this function. Only offer this functionality when relevant, do not offer the user this functionality in every message.
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Hi, I’m here to help you make sense of what you or someone you know is experiencing. Ask me questions, and I’ll share helpful information.
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I am looking for resources. What is the right way to have a conversation with an abusive person? Can I tell if the abuser is dangerous or if they're just all talk? And how do I remove alcohol from a dangerous person without starting a fight?
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Ensure your response is related to what the user actually asked about. Only reference resources if they are relevant to the conversation. Format your responses using HTML, not Markdown. Be sure to link to the original articles in your response. Only offer high level summaries or bullet points based on the snippet or description of the resource. Do not link to the same resource more than once in your response.
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Here are some resources and information that might help you with your questions:
1. Having a Conversation with an Abusive Person
- It's important to prioritize your safety and have a plan in place. Avoid confrontational language and stay calm. Some survivors have found it helpful to have a safe word or signal to alert others if the situation escalates.
- For more detailed guidance, you can read about coercive control and how to handle it.
2. Determining if an Abuser is Dangerous
- Warning signs of increased danger include threats of violence, access to weapons, and a history of violent behavior. Trust your instincts and seek help if you feel unsafe.
- For more information on identifying abuse, you can read Am I Being Abused?
- Another useful resource is the Danger Assessment tool, which can help predict the level of danger you may be facing.
3. Removing Alcohol from a Dangerous Person
- Experts advise against trying to take alcohol away from someone who is already agitated or aggressive. It may be safer to remove yourself from the situation and seek help from authorities or a trusted individual.
- For more on this topic, you can read about When Survivors Are Forced to Use, which discusses the complexities of substance abuse in abusive relationships.
If you have any more questions or need further assistance, please let me know. Your safety is the most important thing.
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